To sum up: it appears that your choices at this moment are
- Make sure your form data is small enough (by using smaller names for your form elements or other methods) that you don't have this problem
- use meta-refresh instead of returnredirect
- implement the nssock graceful closewait in nsvhr and nsunix as needed, which would involve some AOLServer hacking
Option 1 was adequate for me. (I don't have time for option 3 right now. :)