even more...
xotcl is also in and for tcl; soemthing happened when aolserver4 cane out,,, it allowed regularly built tcl modules to be included by aolserver without special/weird actions or syntaxes for doing it. the consequence of that is nothing needs to be --with-aolserver any more.
./configure --with-tcl=/path/to/tcl/install/lib --prefix=/path/to/tcl/install --enable-threads --without-aolserver3
which will also make the xotcl module, when installed, a sibling of the other tcl modules.